Fx autoplays video/ ie doesn't

Greetings:

I appreciate the helpful suggestions I've recieved so far regarding type of video file to use on my site...and that's still in the works (I recently downloaded fx, and have been sidetracked by fixing things that don't look right in that browser). Right now I've run across a little problem I need help with. I have .wmv files on my site, and have created the page with the intention that it NOT load the file automatically. I use a WYSIWYG editor (will begin to learn some html because I don't want to feel as helpless when needing to adjust my page manually as I do right now).

Anyway, the file doesn't load automatically in ie, but it does in fx. Problem is, if the customer isn't interested in watching the video, the fact that the video is loading slows the computer down (i.e. if you want to go to a different page, etc.) The html for my viewer follows:

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So, can someone point me to what I need to adjust so that the file doesn't automatically load in fx?

Many thanks,